Meet our March 2023 Scarlight, Desiree from Houston, Tx!
Desiree has decided to show up and share her story of the struggles she’s endured, and I am so grateful that she has chosen Scar Power as her vehicle!
We all have experiences of hardship and struggle that have shaped our lives, and many times we think that we’re alone in them. But we’re not. We also think that our struggles are the end, but they are only the beginning! They show up for us to pinpoint exactly where we are lacking, and where we need to focus our work in order to heal.
There is a purpose for it all, and that purpose is to lead us to our power!
Read Desiree’s story of how she found her strength and worth through her toughest experiences.
Desiree’s Story
“I didn’t notice the effect of narcissistic abuse until I was in a relationship with a covert narcissist in college. When trying to co-create my dream life, I recognized I had difficulty trusting in my own decisions and what I wanted for myself. Childhood scapegoating and sexual abuse left me feeling shame and undeserving of receiving blessings and promises from the Divine.
In addition, I found out that my family ignored signs of me having Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD) and being on the Autism Spectrum. Although I felt alone, I knew I was not alone in those experiences. I refused to spend the remainder of my youth feeling depressed, powerless, and afraid. I was someone who looked like she had it all figured out because I was strong and put together, but I was struggling inside.
Surrendering
I never realized how afraid I was until the hustle wasn’t working anymore, and I endured homelessness. I had to learn to surrender to a power higher than me. And while this life is no linear process, I am DAMN proud of myself, because I am no longer the people-pleasing, guilt-holding Empath I once was. I’ve learned how to create my dreams in a way that honors me; doing things my own way. It’s amazing what accepting a little darkness and integrating can do!
I now own the sensitive and fiery sides of myself. I now own my soft heart as well as my Power. Where I used to judge, I now show love, adoration, and compassion to myself. Where I used to hide or tone switch, I now speak boldly and show up for myself! I not only know that I am worthy, but that what is mine is mine, and it is time for me to claim it!
Watch me as I take on the world!”
Questions for Desiree
- Why do you want to be featured in a Scarlight?
“I have radically transformed my self-belief and sense of Personal Power, and I have helped other survivors to transform their inner and outer worlds as well. Someday, I knew I would be able to do this; however, I didn’t expect to be at the place I am mentally and emotionally so quickly and at 25. I am so proud of myself! There is more life to live, and I am grateful to finally be living my own!”
- How has your story/experience shaped your life’s perspective?
“I am able to see the power of our programming and creation, and I choose to be a midwife to the Divine, creating and programming the new! Now, I understand that we are not victims of chance. I could have chosen to sulk, give up, lose my heart and settle for what I was shown. But I know if my heart can exist from the experiences I’ve gone through, then there has to be more love out there!”
- What steps did you take and/or tools you used to overcome how you felt about your scars? If you have not yet, why?
“It began with therapy, followed by spiritual traditions that helped me to develop a greater awareness of creation and the Spiritual World we live in. With the study of Neuroscience, I began to rewire and reprogram my brain. I incorporated breathwork and nervous system regulation, and also researched and studied other stories similar to mine which began the process of shifting my perspective of myself and the world.”
- What is the most important thing that you have learned about yourself through your journey?
“I have GOT to give myself more credit and allow myself to be seen.”
- What is one lesson that you can share with others that will inspire them?
“There are more miracles than you are aware of. If the dream sounds “too good to be true” that’s the one you follow!”
Thank You!
Thank you for being our March 2023 Scarlight, Desiree, and for sharing your experiences and wisdom at such a young age! You’re amazing for helping others to find their strength and power! Continue to grow, heal, and be a light in this world!
Sending lots of love and light your way!
Ameerah